The elusive domestic paradise

It has been said over the years, asserted and re-asserted- every woman's dream of the perfect family. Without doubt, most women do feel this way. Perhaps its got to do with social conditioning, expectation or her very own personality.It sounds pretty cliched in the midst of feminist revolutions and women taking upper hand, coming to the forefront and blah blah. Inspite of it all,isn't that simple fairy tale a longing for every woman out there? But this idea seldom remains static for those who are hit by the reality sooner or later in life, where action replaces deceptive creation. How has it changed? Isn't this paradise still a bubble? Has this deception been partly responsible for them being influenced by pragmatism? These are only questions that can be raised over and over again. Men have in reasonable measure contributed to this. We have to thank them, show our gratitude for making us think in ways we couldn't earlier.
There is, of course the whole new dimension of the denial factor among most. While there you are in the midst of hard hitting absoluteness you are lifted, sometimes naturally, into a world of fantasy, completely believing in the fulfillment of a well developed deceitful faith. Yes it is the survival instinct because the ripple effects of shock can be quite destructive to a point where it could question trust itself. Delving too much into a discussion like this is anything but productive. So it is better to bluntly state the situation and provide ideas of overcoming to those who are actually affected by it.

The most important is to not believe all that is "said", "brainwashed" or "inappropriately thrust" onto you.These are just versions and personal experiences and in most cases, not even that. This talk is propelled by idleness or idealistic thinking banking on movies, books and impulsive inferences. Its simple enough; believe in yourself. Personally i often question as to why there are more number of love poems written by men and why they seem so melodic, beautiful and perfect. After a lot of pondering I have come to a temporary understanding that it is because different things are expected from them right throght childhood to adult life. Marriage and fatherhood are not the ultimate dreams and nor are they on the constant look out for "princess charming" Sounds funny enough, but why not? Why does it seem odd? How many men actually sit on a couch and day dream about finding love and living happily ever after? No wonder, that it is magical when it actually happens to them! They are plainly, swept off their feet. Therein lies the secret of happiness; to not expect it and also be a narcissist. Selfish and unyielding! Only cause it is your right! And it is your life. Think about yourself and everything will just fall into place!