Amazing insight by Dr Mohd Younis! Loved it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NjI-nsHp0I0

The elusive domestic paradise

It has been said over the years, asserted and re-asserted- every woman's dream of the perfect family. Without doubt, most women do feel this way. Perhaps its got to do with social conditioning, expectation or her very own personality.It sounds pretty cliched in the midst of feminist revolutions and women taking upper hand, coming to the forefront and blah blah. Inspite of it all,isn't that simple fairy tale a longing for every woman out there? But this idea seldom remains static for those who are hit by the reality sooner or later in life, where action replaces deceptive creation. How has it changed? Isn't this paradise still a bubble? Has this deception been partly responsible for them being influenced by pragmatism? These are only questions that can be raised over and over again. Men have in reasonable measure contributed to this. We have to thank them, show our gratitude for making us think in ways we couldn't earlier.
There is, of course the whole new dimension of the denial factor among most. While there you are in the midst of hard hitting absoluteness you are lifted, sometimes naturally, into a world of fantasy, completely believing in the fulfillment of a well developed deceitful faith. Yes it is the survival instinct because the ripple effects of shock can be quite destructive to a point where it could question trust itself. Delving too much into a discussion like this is anything but productive. So it is better to bluntly state the situation and provide ideas of overcoming to those who are actually affected by it.

The most important is to not believe all that is "said", "brainwashed" or "inappropriately thrust" onto you.These are just versions and personal experiences and in most cases, not even that. This talk is propelled by idleness or idealistic thinking banking on movies, books and impulsive inferences. Its simple enough; believe in yourself. Personally i often question as to why there are more number of love poems written by men and why they seem so melodic, beautiful and perfect. After a lot of pondering I have come to a temporary understanding that it is because different things are expected from them right throght childhood to adult life. Marriage and fatherhood are not the ultimate dreams and nor are they on the constant look out for "princess charming" Sounds funny enough, but why not? Why does it seem odd? How many men actually sit on a couch and day dream about finding love and living happily ever after? No wonder, that it is magical when it actually happens to them! They are plainly, swept off their feet. Therein lies the secret of happiness; to not expect it and also be a narcissist. Selfish and unyielding! Only cause it is your right! And it is your life. Think about yourself and everything will just fall into place!

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/23/magazine/23Women-t.html?_r=1#
http://kristof.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/08/04/the-crime-a-woman-wearing-pants/
http://kristof.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/06/23/do-we-have-a-rape-gene/

crappology.

these are random bits and pieces of writing that i do during excruciatingly boring classes. fragmented and unconnected, dont try to make sense of them! oh no i am not trying to go the eliot way!

as the sun rises over the lowly banks
a bird song reaches miles of lands
i hear it, through day and night
a melancholic sweetness pouring consciousness
over a wistful soul.

dreams can only live as long as u sleep....snore on!

blue turtles, yellow whales and red gypsies;
they go round and round like teasing memories
belly dancing, hips shaking and eyes winking
at me
like they were mocking picking and clicking
their tongues
over my deplorable plight.

in this cocoon i sit
wounding and wounding in
an invisible shell
the head that comes out to see
you
happy and gay it moves left
and it moves right.
the cocoon dances
swaying itself from left to right!

i think u know all humans....they r selfish. i mean everyone. but sometimes we do brand people selfless. really now.. how?! oh ya ya, these are the clever ones. super people i says. the shrewdness with which they put things across, u wouldnt suspect a thing. but thats even worse than being selfish aint it?!? tell me about it!

like i will tell u how. very supposedly smart people ok. they will come and share everything with u. full open heart only. and they will also tell u that u are the onlyy one and only only person they ever shared things with(after the cats, dogs,buffalos, hens, cows) see target will hit only once no? but they will try with everyone. and then u could also be dumb enough to fall for it! u will! i did! everyone does. then sometime later u will realise! oh what a fool. and u know the best thing you could do is to not do that to anyone else. otherwise what is the whole point of realising only?? ya forget the parts where u sang praises about them with a trumpet and early morning cock a doodle do sounds.

now u must be wondering what has this got to do with being selfish? it totally has! see they want sympathy, support and doll in self pity. now i am gonna say something thats gonna rouse ur fury! u were an easy target! ya we all were at times. and sometimes we were doers too. but mostly by fault, in vain, in stupidity. now thats one kind of selfishness where there is seeking all attention through this inverted method. not clear? keep thinking about it and the brain shall enlighten thee!

the other kind are a little better. they will just plainly admit it and not try godly antics. shit i love u people ya. see u want something means u want it. say it on the persons face. why use shortcuts and u turns and gallis?? if u are scared that the person will judge you then he isnt even important enough to be told anything. doesnt deserve it. so say it. say it bloody hell. dont try to make urself a superhuman ... you are doin it at the other's cost.

and you're only getting a temporary high cause eventually they will realise.. and no one will be a bigger dumb ass :) sorry for the baaady lang. i hope its clear now.

tatan!

along with the idea of romantic love, she was introduced to another-physical beauty. probably the most estructive ideas in the history of human thought. both originated in envy, thrived in insecurity, and ended in disillusion. in equating physical beauty with virtue, she stripped her mind, bound it, and collected self-contempt by the heap. she forgot lust and simple caring for. she regarded love as possessive mating, and romance as the goal of the spirit. it would be for her a well spring from which she would draw the most destructive emotions, deceiving the lover and seeking to imprison the beloved, curtailing freedom in every way.

toni morrisson
THE BLUEST EYE